There are many reasons why we choose not to love someone anymore. But many times we can’t find one reason why we love someone,except that our heart is urging us to move to a certain direction where one particular person is standing right there, and our mind decides to make the choice of walking towards him or her.
Before you go to the “hows”, you need to find out the “whys” on letting go. When you know the “why”, the “how” will seem apparent to you. It’s always been like this.
That’s why in life, no matter what we choose to do or not do, we need to find out our why. John DiLemme likes to say this “Find your why, and fly!”.
Whether or not you’ll fly away from him, or towards him is something you will ascertain when you can establish why you need to leave him or to stay.
And why are you two breaking up and patching back again for so many times? Because you can’t find someone else better, or you are too used to him like what you said? Could this be why you feel that you need to let go and yet you can’t?
You can. If you can leave the relationship and go back again, you can leave and not go back again. If you really want that.
Again, whether you think you can, or you can’t, either way you’re probably right.
But truth is, maybe your conscious mind is wanting to leave. How about your sub-conscious mind? What is it telling you? Have you truly listened to this inner voice?
If a fear of losing someone is greater than the need to leave him, then obviously you haven’t found the why to leave. Either that, or it’s not compelling enough. Which means, you’d probably be hanging around a little while longer.
Why not use this time to figure out what is the future you want? In all aspects of your life – career, finance, health, love, spiritual pursuits etc, since you know as well as i do that love and relationship forms part of your life and not entirely. Though I would agree that it could be the one that’s giving your life the most meaning and purpose.
original article: Love and Relationships @ Virtualfriends
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